Wednesday, November 30, 2011

How To Engage In Conversations With Girls

Do you simply freezes up when it comes to talking with a girl you have just got acquainted with or a woman whom you like? Are you racking your head on what to say next during the conversation?

If you are, then your success with women may be in jeopardy because if you can't talk to a woman, then how in the world can you succeed with her or to even date her?

This article is not about starting conversations with women for there are thousands of articles where you can read about that. It is for guys who squirm at carrying on a conversation and is constantly racking their brains as to what to say next. That being the case, here are some ways in which you can find things to talk about with her.

An excellent way to move a conversation along is to talk about subjects relating to her own experiences and then linking it to something that you have been through. So when she is telling you something, you can then add your bit by saying, "Oh my gosh, that reminds me of the time when I etc"

You see, when you shift the conversation to relate to your own experiences, there will be many things to say because those things happened to you, didn't they? At the same time, take this opportunity to score some brownie points by sprinkling some of your positive qualities into what you are telling her.

Since the subject is relevant to her own personal experiences, she will most likely be listening to you attentively and carrying on the conversation with you excitedly, wouldn't she?

It is no secret that the easiest way to move between conversational subjects is to simply don't think too much about it. The more you are trying to think what to say next or which subject to talk about, the more nervous you will be and your mind will go blank. I am sure you must have experienced that before, haven't you?

So just chat with her naturally as if you are in a conversation with a good friend. You can also use this friendly banter to create a feeling of familiarity with her and so just talk about what you want to talk about.

Furthermore, you are also taking control of the conversation and that is the essence of leadership. I am sure you know that women find men with leadership qualities and who are in control very sexually attractive. Oh, you didn't know that? Well, now you do, so be that attractive man!

Now what if you have said all you have to say about that particular experience that relates to her and the conversation grinds to a halt? Well, you don't need to despair. Simply just change the subject to something else that you are familiar with and that she is interested in.

This should be easy because by now, through the course of the conversation, you would have found out some things that makes her excited or interested in. So move on to that subject by saying "anyway" and change the subject.

Remember this, don't ever turn the conversation into a monologue or into your personal biography as that may turn her off. Worse, she may even think that you are a conceited show off.

If she is quiet and letting you do all the rambling without adding her inputs now and then, she is probably getting bored with the conversation. So you should turn over the conversation to her by asking her questions like "so, what do you think about that" or "what will you do if you were me?"

Then as she starts answer your questions, flirt, joke and tease her playfully to raise the sexual tension. Start to say things like "did it make you feel good?" or "what was it like when it happened?"

Who says you have to rack your brain for conversational topics when talking to girls?

Chris Chew is relationship and fitness coach and you can find many of his articles at and

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